Ah, the fuckboy. Much has been documented about the fuckboy
in recent years and we are all aware of the warning signs associated with them.
But why do we continue to let them in, and even worse, fall for them? Here’s
hoping you can learn some truths about not falling for a fuckboy. Warning: the
truth can be harsh.
Stop looking for the
love of your life in a nightclub:
It’s like looking for a Chanel bag in the middle of Tesco.
If you are the type of person that gets easily attached (holding my hand up
high here) it’s better not to even GET with someone at the club. You might
think “Oh this is fun?” but days later you can’t stop wondering if they’re
thinking about you too. God forbid if he actually texts you after it, then you
go full creeping mode into his life.
Stop it. The best way to avoid all this is to ignore every
last fuckboy at the club. (You will ultimately feel empowered by this and play
every Beyonce classic in your head.)
Stop stalking fuckboys online:
Seriously? So you look up his Facebook to find what? Some
girl he’s just added and all his dumbwit friends commenting on it? (The girl
probably doesn’t even know the chap in the first place, so don’t go putting
your hate on her). Shut down that goddamn laptop, even delete him from your
friends list. If you want a more subtle approach, you can simply block seeing
his fuckboy activities on your homepage. Simples.
Do not hate on the
girl the fuckboy is getting with behind your back:
Women are meant to empower each other, and in a world full
of fuckwit fuckboys we need to stick together. Don’t go bitching about the girl
you heard he got with. Chances are, she doesn’t even know ye have a thing
together (what are ye anyways? Texting? Shfiting? Are ye exclusive? Fucking
fuckboys.) Get off your high horse and stop insulting her eyebrows. Insult him
instead. Or better yet, move on with it with some Ben & Jerrys followed by
a girls’ night.
Focus on yo’self:
Stop trying to get his attention. If a lad genuinely likes
you, you will earn his attention in other ways than posting up a hot selfie and
seeking likes. Educate yourself goddammit. Focus on getting your long awaited
driving licence. Further your career. Start helping your parents at home. Make
time to catch up with your friends.
The right person will come along eventually, and there’s no
point in diving in the pool of fuckboys hoping to seek one out. You will not
‘change’ him, no matter how much you try. So focus on yourself and enjoying
life, you’re only young once!
To leave ye feeling in a 'hell yeah!' mood I'll finish off with a quote by Chimamanda Adichie (novelist, feminist and all-around inspiration):
We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls,
"You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man."
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage
And we don't teach boys the same?
We raise girls to see each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are
Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls,
"You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man."
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage
And we don't teach boys the same?
We raise girls to see each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are
Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes
